Of Marriages, Love And Relationships

Well I know some of you are wondering why on earth am I talking about it when I am not even married? Well I have been going steady with my girlfriend for almost 12 years now and mind you, this love relationship have lasted more years than an average marriage does. I met some old college friends recently who got married in their late twenties but unfortunately they are divorced now and I was told that their marriage only lasted for about 3 years. Believe me that after being with someone for 12 years is no longer like- Cupid- Just-Shot- His Love Arrow- into your heart. A solid 12 years of Love relationship will eventually become a Husband-Wife type of relationship minus the legal documents of course. Anyways the reason why I'm pondering over this subject-matter is because one of my colleagues is getting married come this July and she asked me this ultimate question: What makes a Happy Relationship? I am not a 'Guru' on relationships but from my own relationship with my beautiful Rose, I have something to tell and share about what makes the flame in the relationship burning whether be it in a marriage, love or friendship and I will give you some answers to a happy relationship and of course... lah Happy Marriage too .
Well, Men and women need answers, Men need to be desired and women need to be loved... We all want and need more love into our Lives. When two people decide to be together, it is because they are hoping that this person will be able to fullfill their every need. They want to feel safe and secure, loved and desired, romanced and respected. We all have these qualities, but sometimes we just tend to take things for granted and lose appreciation for what really matters. (Sharing love!) Lets get focused and back on track. Spark that fire, enhance romance, and spice it up. For sure you will be delighted. Don't be the man without love or the women seeking love...Answer these questions: Do you want a more passionate and romantic relationship? Do you want more happiness and love in your life and in your marriage? Do you want a more satisfying and fulfilling marriage/relationship? If you have ever asked yourself any of these questions you need an approach to finding and achieving greater love, joy and well being in your life and in your marriage/relationship. How do you develop all the qualities that love generates to make your life happier and healthier? Loving means caring for the well being of us and others, sharing the good times and the challenging times, sharing what is on our minds and hearts. How do you love others more? You already give all you got. There is a way. You can have more loving, caring, sharing, and affection, better relationships, more fun and more bliss in your relationship. Let's encounter the challenges, between the both of you can succeed. Why not take charge of your life and your marriage/relationship, practice the things you know will bring more of the good life. Deep inside of you there are powers that if discovered and used would allow you to achieve all that you ever dreamed or imagined you could become.Go For it! You can do it! You're the Best!Do yourself a favour and start doing it now ... Don't start when it is too late. It takes TWO TO TANGO. Relationship or Marriage is not a one-way street. It is a two-way street. Love is a beautiful thing ...We all need to be desired, loved and need attention. MARRIED PEOPLE NEED TO STAY HAPPILY MARRIED. LOVERS WANT TO BE ALWAYS HAPPY TOGETHER. NEWLY WEDS LOOK FORWARD TO EXCITING TIME TOGETHER. All of us are looking for the ultimatum-HAPPINESS IN A RELATIONSHIP. How do we keep the relationship burning with flames and without too much of smoke?

LIKE I SAID I'M NOT A 'GURU' BUT HERE ARE SOME ANSWERS TO A HAPPY RELATIONSHIP FOR YOU TO PONDER ON AND USE IT IN YOUR LIFE- THAT ALSO IF YOU WANT TO.....
* Be spontaneous with your partner, it is a way to help your relationship flourish. Being spontaneous with your partner can enrich and strengthen your intimate moments. try something that you have been wanting to do.
*Make Touching And Hugging each other a 'Religion'. They say, the more you touch a person the more closer they will get to you. Touching makes the bond stronger. Next time do watch Discovery Channel on Animal Kingdom and see for yourself how touching is practiced in the animal world to ensure a strong bond among the clan. If couples can touch a lot during courting times then this should be carried into the marriage as well.
* Talk, listen and laugh together and become best friends. You will soon start creating a bond of intimacy. Be sincere open and honest. Always Communicate about love, sex and the relationship.
* Send Love Notes, post them everywhere, tell them how gorgeous, handsome, Beautiful, sexy, how much you love them, be creative be specific.... (You have brains don't you?)
* Compliment each other lovingly in public and in privacy, show affection for each other ... (Don't be afraid to kiss in public)
* Show them how much your really care by being responsive, caring and loving whole heartedly. Do the little things that say I love you and care for you. (Put you ego aside)
* Respect each other whole heatedly, partners who treat each other with kind and respect know that it is essential for having a deep connections and loving relationship..
* Be a good partner --regularly get them something you know they will like and enjoy ..
* Don't let negative or annoying comments bother you, discuss the negativity when you are both calm.
* Communicating without fear is absolutely essential to building the deepest kind of friendship and intimate partner. Love is a Beautiful thing! Let's share it ...Expect marital problems, but keep in mind that if your partner does not want to take part it could be that your partner could be feeling hurt and disappointed in the relationship because their need has been misunderstood or neglected. Understand the problem and if you need help seek help from friends or family before it becomes a nightmare.

Relationships need to be nurtured and fed with Vitamins and the Vitamin is called LOVE. It takes a lot of understanding, dedication, love and sacrifice from the two of you to keep the FLAME BURNING. If you want to keep "The Marriage/Love/Relationship" then you must be prepared to make this sacrifices to find happiness. You must enter into a conscious, honest marriage, and you have a good chance of keeping your Love, for the rest of your lives, and beyond.
The other option, of course would be to file for divorce and exit from the relationship to find the next level of happiness... Being You!