Find a guy

Met a friend today, who's wife is pregnant and due anytime and our conversation turned to what she saw in him to get married to him. She gave couple of interesting insights and I would like to share what she said. Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of nice, ok, and hot. A guy who calls you back when you hang up on him. A guy who will lie under the stars at the beach and listens to your heartbeat (Hey this my opinion) to which my friends wife said that only happens in movies and not in real life...hmmmmm and also my opinion again which Ifeel it should be a guy who will stay awake just to watch you sleep.
A guy(My opinion too) who kisses your forehead and who wants to show you off to the world even when she is just wearing track pants. A guy who holds your hands (Her opinion)in front of his friends and who thinks you are just as beautiful without makeup on. One who is consistently (Now this is my opinion) reminding you of how much he cares and how lucky he is to have YOU...The one who turns to his friends and says 'Thats HER'.............

What I Can Do......

I can't give solutions to all of life's problems, doubts, or fears. But I can listen to you, and together we will search for answers. I can't change your past with all it's heartache and pain(if any) not the future with its untold stories but I can be there now when you need me to care.
I can't keep your feet from stumbling. I can only offer my hand that you may grasp it and not fall. Your joys, triumphs, successes, and happiness are not mine yet I can share in your laughter. Your decisions in life are not mine to make, nor to judge. I can only support you, encourage you, and help you when you ask.
I can't prevent you from falling away from your values, from me. I can only pray for you and talk to you. I can't give you boundaries which I have determined for you but I can give you the room to change, room to grow, room to be yourself and above all your own freedom. I can't keep your heart from breaking and hurting, but I can cry with you and help you pick up the pieces and put them back in place. And I will always be there for you............

GOD gave us special friends

GOD knew that everyone needs companionship and cheer. He knew that people need someone whose thoughts are always near if not the same. Well GOD also knew people need someone kind to lend a helping hand. Someone to gladly take the time to care and understand. GOD knew that we all need someone to share each happy day, to be source of courage, encouragement, motivation when troubles come our way.
Someone to be true to us is not easy to find, whether near or far apart. Someone whose love we will always hold and treasure in our hearts. That's why GOD gave us special friends like you.

You Touched My Soul

This is for you my dearest special friend, the one person I can tell my soul to. The one person who can relate to me like no other and the one who I can laugh with to no extents and who can listen to me when I need an ear.
Since I know you, never have you turned your back on me or told me I wasn't good enough but always there to listen to my past and ease the burden that I have been carrying for the past 7 years. I don't think you know what that means to me. You have your own problems but still you have time for me. I look up to you because you are strong, caring and beautiful eventhough you don't think you are.
And I hope you know that I am always here to listen to you laugh and cry and help in all the ways that I can and I will always be there for you. You are the kind of star that always sparkle and look different from others. You are that star with whom I spoke my life without any reservations. You are that star with whom I speak when I am sad.
I want you to know that you are like that beautiful rainbow to me that makes me smile when I am going through a storm. You are the one who makes me feel that I am someone of high level and have duties to carry on. Now you have become an inspiration to me when I have lost all hopes on friendship and you bring out the world inside me that I never knew I had. You always put yourself down in front of me but I know you are being modest. That makes you unique and a star compared to the rest.
You are one friend for whom I would like to take millions of birth to thank you for what you have done for me.... from the beginning to the end. You are the friend in front of whom I never make excuses and never tell lies because you know me better than anyone would ever had and you know me by my faults and demerits rather than my few good points.
You are the friend who is always close to me on whom I can always count on and who multiplies my JOYS and SORROWS by a smile and a laugh and on Whatsapp(which can go on for hours until the wee hours of the morning) You are like a candle who's flame glows brighter at the time of darkness.
You are the friend who is always there and will be always there in my life no matter what, no matter where I go and not like the waves upon the sand day and night.
I want you to know as the time is getting closer for me to embark on my next journey in my life, that each day, each moment spent with you is better than the last and my first day spent with you was the best day of my life. You did not complaint about the long walking journey to the car park when others would have complained but instead you saw it in a very positive way. To have you now in my life is of the highest delight. Now I value you more than I value my life so when I say YOU ARE MY SPECIAL BEST FRIEND it just means YOU ARE MY LIFE.
I THANK YOU for all the kindness, honesty, trust, warmth, caring and goodness you have shown to me and in return I have the blood of my body all for you my dearest friend.

You I Will Always Cherish.....

There are times in our lives when we least expect it, someone walks right into your life and touches your soul. Even if you know them only for a short period of time but the moments spent with this person and the memories shared are something that cannot be replaced with anything. Sincerity, Honesty, Caring ways and true friendship is what they give you without expecting anything in return. Just when I thought the world is full of materialistic people, people with motives and people who offer friendship and expect something in return, there you walked in and offered nothing but your friendship in its most truest and purest sense.
So my special friend (you know who you are) I am writing this today specially for you for making me know that I am not alone and you will always be there for me. You made my journey for the past two months at this place where I am now beautiful and memorable and something I will cherish for the rest of my life. Not everyone in your life can touch your soul but you are the rarest person I have come to know and have touched my soul in your own unique way and I thank you for that. The next post is a dedication to you to our Special Friendship.

When you love someone and when you like someone

In front of the person you love, your heart beats faster
But in front of the person you like, you get happy
In front of the person you love, winter seems like spring
But in front of the person you like, winter is just a beautiful winter
If you look into the eyes of the one you love, you blush
But if you look into the eyes of the one you like, you smile

In front of the person you love, you can't say everything on your mind
But in front of the person you like, you can
In front of the person you love, you tend to get shy
But in front of the person you like, you can show your ownself

The person you love comes into your mind every 2 minutes
You can't look straight into the eyes of the one you love
But you can always smile into the eyes of the one you like

When the one you love is crying, you cry with them
But when the one you like is crying, you end up comforting them
The feeling of love starts from the eye
And the feeling of like starts from the ear

So if you stop liking a person you used to like
All you need to do is cover your ears
But if you try to close your eyes
Love turns into a drop of tear and remains in your heart forever after....

Love and Like.....Are they the same?

Someone recently asked me whether Love and Like are the same? It got me thinking over the holiday and I think they are not the same. To start with Like and Love are two completely different things. This is because when you like somebody you are just getting to know that person and trying to figure out if there is something more between the two of you. Like is not as deep as love is.
Like is just like making friends. You don't know if the two of you are going to grow to be the best of friends or discover that you really don't like that person as much as you thought you would. I don't really think that you can put together like and love because they are so different.
It is one thing to like a person but it is quite another to love that person. Don't get me wrong. I mean like is a wonderful thing but when you find love it is a spectacular and the most beautiful thing that two people can share with one another. Love will make you do things that you never thought you would do and like will not. When you love somebody you love all of them even if some of the things they do drive you crazy.
FINDING LOVE can be difficult and finding to like somebody comes a little bit easier because you know that if you don't like those annoying little habits it is easier to get rid of and discover that they are not the one for you.
Love is different thing because love runs deeper than like. Love is more forgiving and more giving than like. Love is unconditional but like has its conditions. You wouldn't just give anything to somebody you liked, but you would for the person that you love becuase it is more special and precious. Like is a precious thing, it just doesn;t get put into the same category as love becuase they are so opposite.
Liking somebody is just liking somebody but loving somebody means making more sacrifice, being more giving and being a little bit more honest with somebody.
When you like somebody you don't really see a point to being as honest than when you love somebody. Like doesn't mean honesty it means friendship and for a lot of people it will always mean just friendship. Love is more than just a friendship and it is more than just honesty. It is about giving, sharing, caring and most of all it is about commitment to that one person and nobody else. Love and like are different and Love goes a lot deeper than like ever will. Some people just get into a relationship simply becuase they like a person and then later in life they find someone who truly love them for who they are without asking anything in return. Love is Friendship and Friendship is Love. It is easy to find a husband(boyfriend) or wife(girlfriend) that you like but to find a friend in a husband(boyfriend) and wife(girlfriend) is not easy.

Down Memory Lane........

As I sat at StarBucks Yesterday sipping down my Latte, yes, Latte- my favourite drink, while looking at some of my childhood pictures posted on my facebook by my childhood friends, it brought back many good old memories as well as some sad memories and regrets. My thoughts went back to 1986 when I was in form 5 and knew this girl in the neighbouring school (Convent School) because we went to the same tuition centre. This memory in particular, brought back saddness and regrets.

Well there are so many cases in our life that make us regret of the things we did or didn't do and when we look back we very often tell to ourselves, if I knew then what I know now I wouldn't behave like that and wouldn't regret of it now.

You see she was always trying to be in my company and was eager to become my close friend as she had no friends at the tuition centre. I wasn't looking for her friendship as I had quite a lot of friends and making new friends was not in my interest at that time and I was always trying to escape from her view when she was coming towards my group of friends during our in-between-tuition breaks.

Once she bought two tickets to a funfare and invited me to join her. I accepted her invitation but decided not to go. The next day I have learnt that my tuition mate went to the funfare but didn't enter the place because I didn't go. She didn't speak to me after that event and was all alone without anybody's company. I didn't regret that as I was very young and didn't understand things that I understand now.

A few months later my tuition mate died from leukemia and first time in my life the feeling of regret visited me and I was ashamed of my behavior. As time passed by and I grew from my childhood I understood the real meaning of friendship.

From my own experience I learnt that very often people who you had considered to be your friends can leave you alone, when you are in need, or when you are facing difficult and hard times in your life and again return to you when you prosper or when they need your help.

I understood that true friends who dedicate their life to each other, who are loyal, trusted and loving are very rare to find and if you have such kind of friends you are one of the luckiest people of the world. And looking back I realized that I had someone in myh life that was ready to be such kind of friend for me but I didn't accept her friendship and lost my chance of having a true, sincere and devoted friend.

If only I knew the real meaning of friendship and dedication then, I wouldn't upset my tuition mate and would try to bring some bright moment to her short life becoming her best and closest friend in this life. I will always remember you and miss the friendship that could/should have been......... with you Gina Tan................ I M SORRY FOR WHAT I DID BACK THEN.

Wedding Bliss

So In Love (DownTown Central, Hong Kong)

The Henna Artist

Tsim Sha Tsui (Hong Kong)

In Motion

Tsim Sha Tsui (Hong Kong)

Random Pictures

Fruity (Gurney Drive, Penang)

Squids (Gurney Drive, Penang)

Hawker Stalls (Gurney Drive, Penang)

Food Galore

Bruce Lee

The Malaysian Bunga Raya - Gurney Drive, Penang

Bruce Lee (HK)- Remembering The Great

Making A Relationship Last

Reasonly my mind has been thinking about relationships (Friendships, Marriage relationships. Love etc). I was having latte the other day at Star Bucks, KLCC (My Favourite Spot) and saw this couple arguing over some matter (being the 'geppo' I am) but really couldn't figure out what they were arguing about until the woman got up and walked away leaving the guy alone who got up and went his own separate way without even giving a chase to that beautiful lady friend/Lover/Wife of his.

I just sat there looking at the whole 'Picture' that unfolded before my very eyes and that is when this subject that I am going to discuss here popped up in my mind. How does one make a relationship last? I have identified some major factors that affect the survival of a relationship as per below:

Selection Of Partner - Sometimes, our selection of partner may be wrong. We may have nothing in common and our values and goals may be very different. With bad selection from the beginning, no relationship can survive for long. One of the main reasons of wrong partner selection may be hurry in selection of partner and inattention to the true nature of the selected partner.

Communication - Bad communication is another reason for break ups. Partners are unable to tell about true feelings to each other for many reasons including fear of conflict. Sometimes, non-verbal communication is made whcih fails in sending the message.

Expectations - High expectations in a relationship is another reason. We expect that after we fall into a relationship, we will become happy, satisfied and feel good at all the times. That does not happen. This creates frustration and leads to blame on the relationship.

Sustaining Relationships Is Difficult - It gives joy, but demand lot of efforts. Relationship is no solution to all our life problems. Sometimes it creates its own problems. For a relationship that last, we have to take care of all aspects of the relationship.

Being Romantic On Valentines Day

I was having coffee the other day with an old friend when suddenly the conversation turned to about being romantic in a relationship and why romance is no longer important (or maybe it is but is swept under the carpet) in this day of technology,iphones, ipads and what not where people are so busy on applications and games that there is little time for romance.

I started to ponder over this subject matter and since February is around the corner what better time to write about it if not now. I do know Valentine's Day is about a few weeks a way but exactly1 month from now the world will be celebrating Valentine's Day but that doesn't mean you can't show your partner some special attention now. You can always show your love for your partner in a small and different ways each day for a whole month prior to Valentine's Day and see what magic happens.

I have read many books on this subject matter and would like to share some of the ways one can be romatic if you are not already romantic. By the way, there is nothing expensive on this list so there is no excuse not to give this a shot.

• Write "I Love You" in the steam on the bathroom mirror after he/she takes a shower.
• Offer a back massage with some good smelling lotion
• Write a poem or better, greet your partner at night and read it to them with passion and then hand them the poem
• While in public, declare "I Love You..... Jane" (Not Jane, but your partner's name)
• Make a CD with a few songs that are meaningful to your relationship.
• Invite him/her to take bath complete with bubbles, Latte/ Capucino/wine/champagne and maybe a little romantic music in the bathroom
• Surprise him/her at work and take him/her out to lunch, maybe take-out food in the park or maybe to a little diner, for a midday romantic interlude
• Put together a little gift on his/her pillow: Chocolate/Rose Flower and a note that says "Your Love is like Chocolate: Sweet and delicious" (or maybe some other romantic message of your like)
• Dedicate a song to him/her on the radio and send him/her an email telling him/her to listen
• If you can cook then cook a special love meal of your partner's favourite foods. Play his/her favourite music and turn the lights low for a romantic dinner. You can use candles instead of room light (Even better)
• Give your partner a pedicure and foot rub or body massage
• Send a text message or email that says "I Love You"
• Mail a card and inside write down the top 10 things you love about your partner (If not 10 at least write five.... lah)
• Give him a picture of you for his/her wallent that says "I Love You"
• Leave a love note in her/his car telling him/her to have a great day
• Carve your initials in a tree (If there are any trees left around)
• When your partner least expects it, give him/her a great big kiss, even if it is in public
• Go see a romantic movie(Or buy a romantic DVD/Blu-Ray movie), sit back row, hold hands and cuddle
• Declare that you will dedicate a particular day just to your partner to do whatever that you want to do with your partner. Maybe start with breakfast in bed
• Buy a tree (since there is a lack of trees nowadays) and invite partner to plant it with you explaining that this tree represents the love between you both that will grow over the years
• In the midst of talking about how your days went, the chores that need to be done, etc, interrupt and say "I have something important to tell you. I love you and here's why......." (Then list 5 things (or More) that you really appreciate about your partner. Finish with a Kiss and say, "Aah, ok, so you were talking about the washing machine giving some problems........."
• Write an old fashioned (Nothing beat the old style of love) and mail it. Be romantic and lavish.
• Find a hote that has a jacuzzi and book it for a one night getaway somewhere close but fun
• Blindfold your partner and drive them to the place where you had your first date, and have that date all over again
• Do something romantic and spontaneous, like picking a flower and giving it to her right on the spot
• Buy some sexy lingerie/underwear and give it to him/her
• Make a donation to charity in the name of your love for your partner
• Give your partner a card that tells how grateful you are to share your life with her/him
• Take a walk on the beach together. Run up ahead and write a message in the sand and then call your partner to see what you "Found". ( I know you never thought of this.:) ]
• Say "I Love You" everyday... commit to it and see the magic it can do
• Take an interest in your partner's interest. For a woman it might be watching a football game with your guy. And for men it might be going to see a chick-flick. Do it with a spirit of enthusiasm and love. Have Fun
• Surprise her by carrying her into the bedroom
• Always hold hand when walking together. Even when in the house always hold hands and kiss each other while walking to the kitchen or bedroom
• Always kiss each other when going to work in the morning and when you meet after work (This requires commitment from both of you)
• Cuddle each day while watching TV together
• Lie on his or her thighs
• Do laundry together
• Hand wash her panties/underwear for her

Now you tell me is this so expensive to do and be romantic.

My Treasured Friend Called 'Baby Doll'.....

My dearest Treasured Friend, It has been a long time since I blogged but today you are the reason for me to blog......
I am glad that I found you and our friendship is a gift we share.
I can be myself around you and safe in your care.
I miss you when you are out of sight. Our friendship bond was meant to be. I think of you with great delight and you are almost a part of me. Through fun and fears, play and tears we help each other heal and grow. I prize our time whatever little time that we spend together or we have. I Cherish the long walk we have occasionally along Jalan Yap Kwan Seng more than you can know.

Whenever my life feels empty, especially those times when I feel a lack, I thank GOD for your special friendship. When I wonder about life's true meaning and whether it all makes sense . With a word or a smile or a sms or on Whatsapp, I forget my silly laments and complaints. I guess what I am trying to say my dear treasured friend is that with all your support and giving, you brighten each minute I am with you and make everyday well worth living.... Thank You For Your Genuine and Sincere Friendship and it feels so good to be friends with you. And I am so privileged to call you my Friend.
You are such a pleasure in my life and I hope you can see how meaningful your friendship is to me.