Making A Relationship Last

Reasonly my mind has been thinking about relationships (Friendships, Marriage relationships. Love etc). I was having latte the other day at Star Bucks, KLCC (My Favourite Spot) and saw this couple arguing over some matter (being the 'geppo' I am) but really couldn't figure out what they were arguing about until the woman got up and walked away leaving the guy alone who got up and went his own separate way without even giving a chase to that beautiful lady friend/Lover/Wife of his.

I just sat there looking at the whole 'Picture' that unfolded before my very eyes and that is when this subject that I am going to discuss here popped up in my mind. How does one make a relationship last? I have identified some major factors that affect the survival of a relationship as per below:

Selection Of Partner - Sometimes, our selection of partner may be wrong. We may have nothing in common and our values and goals may be very different. With bad selection from the beginning, no relationship can survive for long. One of the main reasons of wrong partner selection may be hurry in selection of partner and inattention to the true nature of the selected partner.

Communication - Bad communication is another reason for break ups. Partners are unable to tell about true feelings to each other for many reasons including fear of conflict. Sometimes, non-verbal communication is made whcih fails in sending the message.

Expectations - High expectations in a relationship is another reason. We expect that after we fall into a relationship, we will become happy, satisfied and feel good at all the times. That does not happen. This creates frustration and leads to blame on the relationship.

Sustaining Relationships Is Difficult - It gives joy, but demand lot of efforts. Relationship is no solution to all our life problems. Sometimes it creates its own problems. For a relationship that last, we have to take care of all aspects of the relationship.